Men’s Issues

From a young age, men are taught rigid masculinity – that is to be strong and to keep their emotions in check. This often leads to many men feeling isolated, anxious, angry, ashamed, and depressed. Rather than seeking help or connection, men are typically taught to stuff down and “go it alone.” Bearing their emotional pain seems a better idea than being vulnerable and being seen.

Like any other problem, the longer it is ignored, the worse it usually gets. And despite our best efforts, men’s issues are always expressed.
What are some of those most common struggles for men in regards to mental health?

• Over consumption: excessive use of alcohol, drugs, pornography, food, video games, spending, working
• Identity: self-worth or value being defined from changes in circumstances (becoming a father, spiritual changes, retiring, divorice, becoming disabled, losing employment)
• Anger issues: difficulty in identifying, experiencing, or expressing painful emotions can lead to difficult to control anger or impulsive angry outbursts
• Shame: at the heart of most issues is a sense of shame. Most men are taught to avoid shame, which often leads to the above issues and more (depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, etc.)

There is no denying that mental health issues manifest differently in men than in women, resulting in many going completely ignored and untreated. Often men minimize or don’t recognize their own emotional pain. This results in them bottling up their emotions, which often leads to a manifestation of a physical disease or illness or additional emotional problems.

If you are struggling with any of the above issues and would like to explore treatment options, please contact me. There is no stigma in seeking help, only relief from the burdens you are currently carrying alone.